A Canadian woman has noticed a pattern after dating British men - and she now wants to know whether it's considered a 'dating norm' in the UK or whether it's just among the men she's met
06:00, 18 Dec 2025Updated 08:28, 18 Dec 2025
A Canadian woman has sparked a debate after revealing one major problem she's discovered when dating British men. The 27-year-old explained how recently she moved to the UK and starting putting herself out there in hopes of finding a long-term relationship.
But she couldn't help but notice a "major problem" with dating British men - making her wonder whether it's simply a pattern among the men she's encountered or 'normal dating behaviour' in the UK. Taking to Reddit, she said: "I've been on a few dates and I would say that three out of four times I've been asked if I wanted to kiss them on the first date. I may be old-fashioned here, but I like to take things slow."
Sharing "situation one", she continued: "There was one situation where I liked the man and we did end up kissing, but a few weeks down the line he started being very pushy and asking if I wanted to make out with him or progress further and start doing stuff in the bedroom, of which I declined.
"He then started saying that I'm leading him on and he won't 'wait' for me. Keep in mind when I say weeks it was only two dates. Around eight hours isn't long enough for me"
Next, she shared how she went on a date with a 30-year-old man, who again asked to kiss her on the first date, despite making the planning process more work than it needed to be.
She said: "Another man invited me out on a date, said he would come by Saturday... Fast forward to Thursday/Friday I messaged him due to minimal contact seeing if we were still meeting up.
"We went back and forth before settling on Sunday night - date occurred and went well - then he asked to kiss me after, of which I politely declined, saying I would like to take things slow.
"He then invites himself to my house, and when I decline that, saying it's late and I have work tomorrow, he then calls me unaccommodating, becomes very closed off and doesn't try to talk to me anymore."
Confused, she asked users: "So my question here is: am I the a***hole? Do all men in UK require a kiss before anything starts happening? It seems like I can't win either way."
Commenting on her post, one user said: "Bottom line: you can have whatever boundaries you want. They're the best way to uncover red flags. You do you.
"For what it's worth, I never push for a kiss on the first date. It just doesn't seem gentlemanly, but I wouldn't call it a solid rule."
Another user added: "As an American dating in the UK, I don’t think many people are waiting for weeks to progress beyond a kiss. They may very well be out there, but I haven’t met them."
A third user said: "Whatever the dating culture, within reason, of any country you have your boundaries and people will need to respect that.
"You do what you feel is good for you and the right person will turn up eventually, unfortunately it’ll likely be when you’re about to give up when they do as that has been the case for me a few times prior."